COMMON PROBLEMS
Lots of men suffer from a variety of sexual problems.
Below are a list of common sexual problems experienced by men.
- Sex and gender identity issues
Some people believe their gender identity does not correspond to their biological sex. That is, a biological male or female may believe, feel and identify with their opposite gender. Complications can arise when society insists that an individual adopt a manner of social expression which is based on sexual biology.
- Sexual obsessions and compulsions
Unwanted sexual thoughts, fantasy, or images can interfere with a person's life, followed by a compulsion to act out the thoughts to temporally relieve the anxiety caused by the obsession. A sexual obsession can cause unneeded worry and concern. Sexual thoughts may be 'I'm really attracted to a very good looking man, I must be homosexual' no not necessarily! If the opportunity arose to have sex with him you may find it's not for you. Obsessions which can lead to compulsions can become all consuming and distort the balance of life.
- Sexual addictions including pornography
Similar to a sexual obsession and is driven with an intense sexual drive, sex and the thought of sex tend to dominate the sex addicts thinking, making it difficult to work or engage in healthy personal relationships.
- Sexual intimacy
There are several levels of intimacy with your partner, many men in particular are so focused on reaching the sexual level they negate the stages of intimacy which enhance and fulfill the sexual interaction. They miss out on the best sex because they skip some basics of how to turn their partner and themselves on.
- Low libido
This problem can come about through different experiences such as, feelings of sexual inadequacy or incompetence, grief and loss, stress, ageing, compromised health, depressed mood.
- Sexual desire differences
Men and women seem to come from different planets when it comes to how much sex and how often. Generally desire is paramount in the initial stages of relationships but seems to fade particularly for women as time goes by. Can there be some kind of trade off where both can be satisfied?
- Premature ejaculation
PE is a common complaint with as many as 30% of men suffering from this condition at some stage of their life. There are various reasons why this can happen, with causes such as performance anxiety, super sensitivity and an array of psychological issues not realized by the sufferer which contribute to the condition.
- Delayed ejaculation
Just as disturbing as PE is delayed or retarded ejaculation, once again a problem which affects 30% to 40% of men, and can be related to anger, fear, and negative feelings toward their partner. Similar to PE this is a condition which may be related to situations involving stress, fear and an inability to relinquish control.
- Erection problems
A frequent problem experienced by men of all ages from teenagers to older men. There are many reasons for an inability to have or maintain an erection, often an erection is achieved but is inadequate for sexual intercourse. That is, the penis is not rigid enough to penetrate, or when penetration is achieved the penis looses its rigidity and sensitivity and sex is unable to be maintained. There are many reasons for this condition, with older men age can be a factor contributing to this condition. However there are several options for all men to re-establish healthy and long lasting erections.
- Sexual fears
As strange as this may sound to some of us, this is a very real and distressing factor for many men and women. Rather than experiencing pleasant and aroused feelings when thinking about having sex, fear and distress arises and immobilizes the individual with dread and anxiety. The impact of this affects relationships and the individuals self esteem and can often be addressed through exploring why there is fear and how to eradicate it and restore a healthy sexual response.
- Self esteem issues
A lack of self esteem can never be underestimated, how we see our self impacts on the way we think and feel and how we interact with others. Negative self esteem is often brought about from cruel or negative words or actions by others and may not at all reflect who you really are. Not always conscious but often unconscious negative self esteem can greatly impact sexual desire, arousal and performance.
- Relationship and partner conflict
Well who has the perfect relationship? Any one you know? And what's perfect anyway? It seems there are times of conflict in most if not all relationships, either overtly or covertly. That is not so much a problem as is what do you do with it? Is it compromising your intimacy to the point where sexual intimacy has taken a back seat? Once the loss of sexual intimacy (the glue of intimate partner relationship) dissolves, relationships may fail.
